Me-What’s your favorite color? H-Pink…and purple..but more pink. E-I like Purple…and blue and green and purple.
Sometimes you have to wonder how much you influence your kids’ likes and dislikes of certain things even if you’re trying really hard not to. From the time the girls were born, Tracey and I have always made a concerted effort to make sure that our identical twin girls were able to establish their own personalities, styles, likes, dislikes and so on. Yes, I know they’re only 4, but it’s important to start at an early age or else you could be stuck in a position where you’ve defined something for them that they won’t change later, because that’s all they know, or how they know things to be.
Since Tracey herself is an identical twin, she knows what it’s like to grow up with someone exactly like her. Someone that’s always compared to you and vice versa. I’ve heard some of the stories that have come from her and Nichole about growing up a twin, and how they thought of themselves based on how others viewed them, or their perception of how others viewed them. This is exactly why I’ve always been strongly on board with the idea of letting them be their own person and have that separation in certain areas that allows them to be an individual who just happens to have a sister that looks exactly like them.
When my little twin cousins were growing up, Jessi always liked purple and Kasey always liked pink. I’m not sure how and why this happened, but somewhere along the way, these colors stuck with them and I’m pretty sure they’re still that way today. With that in mind, we didn’t want to assign a certain color to either one of the girls, because it wouldn’t be fair that they would be limited to wearing a certain color or identified based on the color of clothing they were wearing. If pink were Hudson’s color, would Elle not get to wear a pretty dress just because it was pink? Or if purple was Elle’s color would Hudson not be able to have a purple jacket or backpack? It didn’t seem fair, so we tried not to make it that way for them. This includes never dressing them alike, well except for a couple of occasions like Halloween or when they had the UK cheerleader outfits. But for the most part, they don’t have any matching outfits.
The funny thing is, no matter how hard we’ve tried to let them make their own decisions or choose their own favorite color, they’ve fallen into it all on their own. I don’t know at exactly what point Hudson chose pink as her favorite color (I’m guessing it had something to do with a pretty princess dress), but it most certainly is her favorite, dominant color. Elle is a big fan of purple, but also willing to mix it up with blue, green, orange or whatever color Hudson isn’t wearing. They do both like each other’s colors, and the fact that they share all their clothes allows them to trade off from time to time, but for the most part, pink and purple are the colors of choice. I guess, at the end of the day, there are some things you just can’t control, but at least we know that we didn’t make the decision for them.